The Inevitability of Change
The Inevitability of Change
By Michelle Hoffmann
Love it, hate it, look forward to it, or fear it; we all experience it. Change will happen, this is the one constant in life. How we deal with it, well… that’s another story all together.
Let me tell you a story.
There is a young woman. She had spent all her life living near her childhood home, never really venturing out into the world, never really experiencing the possibilities that life offers. She was comfortable with her situation. With few exceptions, she rarely experienced real change.
Then one day, the unthinkable happened to her. Life changed and she had to move far away. Now, this was not a sudden occurrence, as she had been expecting this to happen for awhile. Yet, she was devastated.
She had lived in or near her home town her entire life. She was comfortable and familiar with the area, had lived there, worked there and raised her children there all her life. Her family and friends were all living there. It was her world.
At first, the change was like a vacation, fun and exciting. But when the permanency of it finally hit her, she felt like she was going through the motions of living, but she was not really alive. Anger, denial, grief and the rest of the stages of loss hit her hard. She was not reacting well to the change.
Change is Inevitable
Many of the problems that occur in our lives, if you stop and think about it, happen because of how we react to the changes that are taking place around us. We want our lives to stay static – we don’t like them jumbled up, changing. However, static equates to stagnant. When something is stagnant – it dies. It is change that causes us to become uncomfortable and it keeps us moving. We do everything in our power to pretend that change has not happened; we try to keep things the same as they were when we were happy, we are afraid to get rid of things because we fear that doing so will cause us to lose a piece of who we are or were.
Many times we feel like we are alone. Like we are the only ones going through any sort of change. But, this is just not true. We all go through change; it is a part of life. No one of us is immune to it.
Change can be Physical
Sometimes, the change is so excruciating that it causes an even deeper, more destructive, reaction within us. A reaction so intense that it forces us to act in ways that are detrimental to our health and well being. We know it is happening, but we have become powerless to stop it – or so we lead ourselves to believe. Some of us withdraw from society – only venturing out to do the things that we have to do to survive. Our existence becomes almost hermit like – simply hiding away in our little world, not even venturing out to do necessary tasks. Life stops for us. Eventually we become physically sick.
Our resistance to change causes stress and it is this stress that has caused us to become ill. Sure, you can take all sorts of medications to try to alleviate the symptoms of your illness, but until you deal with the reason for the stress, you will never fix the problem. Your body is telling you that hey, this change is happening and you need to embrace it. Fighting against it will only make things worse.
I know change is not easy. I know you might think that you aren’t strong enough. But, believe me when I tell you that, you can do this. The change can make your life better. Embrace it. Love it. Fear it if you must, but just don’t let that fear overwhelm you.
Remember, change is inevitable.
Michelle Hoffmann is the owner, editor and publisher of The 24KaratMarketer Ezine – https://free24karatmarketer.com, an online publication that is dedicated to helping marketers, new and experienced, succeed in their online businesses. She is also a mother, writer, photographer, web designer and student of nature. Yes, she does it all!